Comments on: A Long Way Away

By: Wochy

Wochy — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 08:12:59 +0000

When you have sex in a BDSM relationship, how does it go? Is she always on top, literally? Or do you do other positions like when you are on top, or doggy style or something?

By: herslaveboy

herslaveboy — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 20:20:56 +0000

Hypocrite – No.
Realist – sure thing.

Think on this too. The majority of vanilla couples keep the bulk of their sex lives behind closed doors. They don’t go to clubs and have sex in public so that others can see that they are a true vanilla couple. Many of them won’t even show affection in public. Are they hypocritical? Or just private people?

Everyone has their own reasons for keeping certain things about their lives private.

Now, I only just started reading your blog, so I don’t know you at all. Yet, I suspect you feel hypocritical because you like to encourage others in the lifestyle to share their views, or maybe even to “out” themselves. If this is what they want, that’s fine. Even when you can’t do so yourself. Just because you can’t do something should not prevent you from encouraging another who can, and wants to. That’s just called being supportive.

Glad to see your back. I’m enjoying your posts so far.

By: SM

SM — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 16:31:26 +0000

=) Submissive Masochist, me too, not quite sure how to go about it either and except I’m female haha x

By: Adversary

Adversary — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 18:10:17 +0000

Yay!

By: Goose

Goose — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 02:56:50 +0000

By: maidenchessa

maidenchessa — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 14:43:00 +0000

Just last night I was looking through some comments on my blog and stumbled across one you left. I understand where you’re coming from with the hypocrite thing – I’ve struggled with that a little myself. But, judging by advice you’ve left for me, and for others – you’re definitely the real deal.

Welcome back!

By: Verity

Verity — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 21:59:03 +0000

I am soo very happy for you…..

By: Pastrychef

Pastrychef — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 16:07:45 +0000

Heck, wanting to keep your sex life your business is a huge part of the whole gay-rights movement. That it would have compromised your professional life is the part that sucks. On the other hand, you might have found life to be more accommodating that you thought possible.
Still-glad you and the wife are back to getting what you want. I bet the rest of the family was enchanted that you’re still so much in love-and that’s the truth, isn’t it?

By: jbsbutterfly

jbsbutterfly — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 19:06:00 +0000

Glad you’re back! I understand how you feel about wanting to be open, but not about feeling like a hypocrite. It’s just not possible in a vanilla-run world to be open about an alternate lifestyle. Too many people see it as abusive and sick, and if they knew you preferred the lifestyle, it would color their view of you. There is no way we could make people understand….it’s the same thing gay people go through…..they lose jobs, friends, family because they prefer a different lifestyle than what’s “normal.” It sucks, but it’s the way it is, and I don’t see it changing. Nods, it is hard at times, but it’s just the way it has to be.

Once again, I’m glad you’re back. I love reading your blogs.

butterfly

By: Pinky

Pinky — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 08:36:32 +0000

I’m glad you’re back and that you have your own place. I don’t think I’ve posted a comment here before, but I have been missing your posts! Yay!