Pitfalls and Progress in Switching

So the last few days have been a bit difficult. I’ve lamented about the lack of time and the odd disjointedness of my wife and I experimenting with switching. But there have been some added wrinkles, the last few times we’ve played:

1) My wife does not give off the vibes that she wants to submit at all. Oh, when we’re in the car or chatting about it, it’s her big dream. But my attempts at suggesting dirty things tend to result in gentle snark rather than swoons. When I try to start a scene, the timing’s wrong or she’s tired, and I get a boatload of attitude that kills the mood. Outside of our first scene together, the switch has been a big letdown.

She has even described herself as “insolent,” and “the worst submissive ever.” But at the same time, she insists this is what she wants.

2) The last three times we played, she couldn’t orgasm. And believe me, we were both trying. The end result of this is that she’s gotten more frustrated and harder to bring to orgasm, the stress has piled up, and she’s gotten even more frustrated in a cascading reaction that has made her even more sullen when we try to play.

So, not such a good beginning to my new life as a dominant. Until last night…